LETTING GO OF EXPECTATIONS
“There’s no fear in the present.” That’s what I heard the yoga instructor say as I prepared to launch into the next pose. What? Repeat that, please!
As I struggled to hold the pose, I contemplated that idea. It made sense to me. Our fears, past and future, influence our expectations of ourselves and our lives. However, when we’re present, there’s no comparison, no expectations, no judgements. Our minds are free, clear and focused only on the task at hand. So in regards to my yoga practice, being present means I focus on the pose of today and lose the comparison to my past practices and concern about the progress I hope for in my future poses.
It appears to me that the natural order of the universe centers on simplicity. We sense it and covet it but in our modern day lifestyles, we find it challenging to live it. Instead, we are squeezed between the fear and stress of future unknown’s or are stuck re-living past heart and headaches that we forget to acknowledge the present. So much of our time is spent fearing the worst that we no longer trust ourselves or have the confidence in accepting that we will survive whatever comes our way. When we truly live in the present, we don’t worry about what could be or what might happen. We stop comparing ourselves with others and we don’t worry about feeling inadequate or not having enough. We just are. We breathe.
Tidying presents an opportunity to find that balance between the past and future. Culling through your possessions that support the lifestyle you envision for yourself as you are in the present provides you with the benefits of more focused attention, energy to follow through with the commitments, projects and challenges most important to you and the clarity to achieve them. You’re not reliving your past but rather learning from it and not worrying about your future but rather planning for it. That’s why the very first step of the KonMari Methodtm is so important; creating a detailed description of the life you want to lead because then the question becomes not what if, but rather, what is. What is important to you now, today, and in the life you want? Are you ready and willing to trust yourself to decide which possessions you want to keep that will support you presently? Try hard not to get hung up on the question, “What if I might need this (fill in the blank) tomorrow, next month, next year?” It’s irrelevant. If it’s not providing you with a sense of JOY or importance now, then trust that it’s time to let it go, and then do so with gratitude because gratitude is also a huge part of this universal equation.
Being present takes patience and practice. But like most endeavors, with time, you will become better at sensing when you’re mindfully aware of your surroundings and when you’ve become distracted and off balance. Start simply by paying attention. Notice your thoughts, feelings, and connect with your surroundings. Slowly but surely you’ll then discover JOY in the present!